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Posted on 01/01/07 @ 8:52 pm
If I call and leave you a message, do call me back. Last time I checked, clairvoyance wasn’t on my list of superpowers. With 24 hours out of the day, a two-minute phone call wouldn’t hurt. And really, that’s about it. Sure, it varies from case to case, but that’s pretty much the standard thing. Of course, when it comes to my mother, none of this really ends up applying. For the past month or so, I hadn’t called her. And actually, for good reason — whether it’s her calling to let me know that she’s having grandmotherly pangs and realizes I won’t be giving her any man+woman made kids or just overall kvetching about how I should be doing better, she never calls with good news. She never calls and is all “Oh I’m so proud of my only law-abiding son” or anything. No…it’s not that. It’s all bad. But again, back to me not calling her in the past month. The last time we talked, she kinda dropped the whole “you can’t come home so long as you’re gay” bomb that frankly, I’ve been waiting for since I moved away seven years ago. I’ve wanted my “and don’t come back now, you hear” papers, and they’ve finally been served. I don’t have to go back home again…maybe this will be a happy new year. [tags]phone nazi, telephone, phone etiquette[/tags] Filed under: Personal Comments: Comments Off
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In some circles, my behavior could be considered a bit excessive when it comes to phone etiquette. But actually, I think it’s rather simple: If I give you my phone number, I expect you to use it. Preferably, you should use it at a regular interval, not once every time Halley’s Comet passes. And unless I give it to you under a specific business proposition or similar situation, don’t use it to call me as just a resource, like for help with your homework or remembering who got the silver medal in the long jump in the 1980 Olympics. (By the way, it was Frank Paschek of East Germany. There.)
Name's Karsh. 28. Country-born, city-raised, 
I thought i was the only one who was a phone nazi. People i swear just have no damn manner.
Said by E — January 1, 2007 @ 10:02 pm
I’m a bit anal in a way when it comes to calling, and being called. If we mutually exchange numbers, I call you, but have to leave a message. You’re the one who needs to return the call. On an occasion or two, I’ve had a few people tell me, why haven’t you called me. I simply reply, “I did call you, but I guess you didn’t get my message.” But in reality I’m thinking, “Bitch, I called you and left a message. You’re the one who hasn’t returned my call”. This type of phone behavior just rubs be the wrong way.
I hope your mom really doesn’t mean what she said.
Said by Carla — January 1, 2007 @ 11:02 pm
For your own survival, you will probably have to distance yourself from your mother and family of origin (for the time being and maybe forever) and forge a new life for yourself.
I know professional black gay men who have “play mamas” (if you need a mama) and these women often prove to be more loving and nurturing than the bio mom. You can BUILD a family of friends that meets your needs.
Continue to pursue your dreams and don’t feel sorry for yourself. This too shall pass.
Said by edwin greene — January 3, 2007 @ 8:29 am
Not much more I can add. People are just plain crass. I would rather you hurt my feelings and tell me you have no intention to call rather than to take the number having me expect a call.
Said by Will — January 3, 2007 @ 3:14 pm
Don’t even get me started on phone etiquette…*LOL*. Sorry to hear about your Mom but you’re right, it probably is best to let it go.
Said by E — January 3, 2007 @ 11:03 pm
Learn to temper your expectations my young padawan
Said by Jaqua — January 11, 2007 @ 11:11 am