Oh hell…I typed up this whole long post on the problems with gay dating these days, then my blogging editor completely crapped out on me and I lost the entire post. That’s the first time that’s happened! Well, since I can’t recall most of what I wrote, I’ll just give you a few quick tips.
- Gay dating is dead…and gay men killed it.
- Clubs and bars? Exercises in futility. Approaching a guy on the street? Could be cruisin’ for a bruisin’. The Internet? Really only good for sex, hate to say. And the sites that aren’t about the booty are usually filled with racist, narrow-minded idiots.
So for those out there who are successful in the gay dating game (I realize location also plays a role in this), how do you do it? Friends? Fag hag? Escort? Blackmail? Let a brotha know. Share you secrets. Lord knows we could all use ‘em.
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I hear you about gay dating. I would say dating in general sucks but it’s particularly hard for gays. You pretty much list all the pitfalls of dating.
The current guy that I’m dating I saw him on a yahoo message board, emailed him, he emailed me back, we met, and four months later, we’re still dating and have made it exclusive. I never thought that would ever happen to me. Miracles do happen.
Gay dating has always been a bit sketchy, but I know what you’re saying. I’ve been with my partner for years (nine of them) and I thank the stars that I don’t have to go back out there and ‘hunt’. I wish you the best. I like what I have seen of your blog so far.
Peace Out ~ Juan
prayer and lying has helped me in the past – lol
seriously, you just have to pay your dues and hopefully someone comes along that it worth dating. In the meantime just focus on yourself – which you seem to be doing well.
yeah, there doesn’t seem to be a secret except for forcing yourself to talk to guys — and, ideally, get out of the house (unless interested in asking out the pizza delivery guy). “mr. right” will appear purely by chance, so you can just increase the chances.
oh oh — and have a short memory. no point in remembering guys that stop returning your calls.
hey i can be your fag hag Karsh, it’ll just have to be a long distance relationship
It’s not easy to ‘find’ someone, but the most important thing you can do is improve yourself so that you are right when that special person comes along.
I like the blog … keep up the good work!
Yeah gay dating is sooooo hard ’cause most of them want sex sex sex! I remember when i started dating guys is was a hell time to find a guy that i could just TALK , all of them wanted one part of my body lol. But the internet i think its a great “tool” to find new guys. For example i found my guy on a gay dating website and we are still together, 4 months & counting.
So… be positive… n remember practise makes perfect :P
Location i’d say, i never see other gays in my neighborhood, in fact, I don’t see hardly anyone in my apartment complex (Atlantans are very disconnected with each other). I don’t date anymore, end of story. I just make “friends” and fall in love with them, and later create a lot of drama and end up losing those friends:)
I agree that you just have to work on yourself in the meantime my partner and I found each other on aol in a chat room six years ago. it can happen
Always type it up first then paste it into the post. Then, of course, view the page…make edits…view the page….garrr!….view the page…edit…edit…
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your post is exactly what I see online now days. I notice all the dating/sex sites are dying out. gay.com is almost nonexistent with only a few people in each city online, another site manhunt for sex, has gone dead it seems. match.com has the same people on it from 10 years ago still looking. I know what you mean about regular chat sites and the guys tending to stick to talking with their own race and making fun of those not their color. I noticed that trend lately. I tend to have a lot of straight friends now. Maybe that is a new trend too with things changing.