Life is funny.

Gaara and I have been in various states of acquaintance since we’ve known each other. We’ve went from casual friends to a hot and heavy relationship to an abrupt breakup to a few periods of silence and now we’re back as friends. And I guess with all that back and forth we’ve had, our friendship is stronger than ever. We even talk about the relationship, what went wrong, and give each other advice on whomever we’re courting at the moment. By all accounts, everything is absolutely great.

Except that I have never been in this position with an ex-boyfriend before.

Usually when we and a mister break up, that’s that. There’s no after-breakup talks or analysis between us; you break up with me and you’re banished to The Island of Lost Boyfriends. Granted, a few have had some post-relationship visits to Casa de Karsh, but a boy has needs. And I’m not talking emotional ones.

Gaara is different. I can’t quite put my finger on it, but even after the breakup, he’s still been amicable and easy-going — the same way he was when we were in a relationship. And since we’re closer than ever in terms of friendship (and location — he actually lives in Atlanta now), this is a good thing. He’s one of my favorite people to hang out with. He makes me laugh. We can vibe well in nearly any scenario. He’s met my friends. I’ve met his friends. His family likes me (I think). And wouldn’t you know it — right now, we’re both single. And even more, we both don’t want to be in relationships right now.

This is either going to be a recipe for harmony or disaster. Stay tuned.