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Posted on 06/02/09 @ 11:18 am

What was the last movie you saw on a date?
Superbad. It was my third date with Killian's Red, which ended up being the last date. Oh yeah, and I didn't much care for the movie either.

What was the last meal you had on a date?
Seafood empanadas and paella at Bahama Breeze.

When was the last time you made out in the car on a date? More?
Both times would've been with Gaara. Before that, I don't think I did much sucking face in a vehicle.

Using a dating website, do you think you are more likely to find a "hook up" or a relationship?
For gay dating websites, definitely a hook-up (even on ones supposedly geared towards finding dates like MyPartner, Lovetastic, etc.). Reading about Funky Brown Chick's success with JDate does have a brotha interested though.

Do you have any special "first" date rituals? Flowers, certain restaurant, etc.
Not really, but on a first date, I prefer they a) don't see my apartment and b) we go Dutch. What? It's a recession!

BONUS QUESTION: Do you believe in sex on the first date? Can a relationship bloom if you have sex on the first date?
I do believe in sex on the first date. Hell, if you know you don't plan on seeing the person ever again after tonight but you're in the mood, why not go for it? Might as well get something out of the night. I do believe a relationship can bloom if you have sex on the first date, but I can't attest to the longevity of the relationship.

I fucked all my boyfriends on the first date, and the relationships all ended up being either short or rocky.

Your mileage may vary, natch.

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T-Minus Six: Six Things That Make Me Happy

Posted on 03/12/09 @ 10:30 am

Since I was tagged by J. nearly a week ago, I figured I'd go ahead and give my reply. (Chances are if you've read this blog at any length, you already know some of these answers.)

Rules

Link to the person who tagged you.
Post six things that make you happy along with these rules.
Then tag six others (letting them know, of course)
Let the person who tagged you know when your entry is complete.

My 6 things

Being appreciated. Despite my love/hate relationship with recognition (thanks to a childhood spent in the spotlight), being appreciated for what I do and who I am (without unending questions or milquetoast tolerance) is always a good thing.
Being in control. My mother always said that I was a difficult child to raise because I always wanted to do things my way or tell other people how to do things my way. It appears that stubborn personality trait has followed me well into adulthood, although I know now that leading does sometimes mean stepping aside to hear others. But if you leave it to me, it's mine, and I'm running it how I want it ran.
Solitude. Quiet, quiet, quiet. Whether it was at work or in other social situations, I always ended up being around people that love to talk to hear themselves talk. (I'm actually pretty chatty at times though.) After all that though, I just like coming home, turning off the phone, and appreciating the stillness.
Tea. OK, so this one kinda surprised me the more I thought about it. I revealed on Twitter about a month back my tea hideaway. I've got a whole cabinet (two shelves) in my kitchen with just tea. I like finding new teas, drinking new teas, making new tea blends, and just being quiet and drinking tea. (Perhaps I was a monk in a former life.)
Writing. Sadly, I don't do it enough. These T-Minus posts are the closest thing to consistent blogging I've done in a while. However, I still have stories to tell, and I love being able to take them from my head and put them on paper, especially because characters, plot, and dialogue always change once I actually see my ideas on the page.
Love. I know I'm happiest when I'm loved and in love. Granted, the times when I feel both are few and far in between, but I enjoy them when they come.

I tag…everyone. Have your own stab at it.

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