Posted on 12/29/09 @ 9:42 am
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Posted on 12/25/09 @ 10:15 am
Oy gevalt! Is it 2010 yet? I’m ready for this year to be over so I can close the door on some things and start regrowth on other things. Yeah, I know that’s terribly vague, but when have you known me to give all the answers? I’m not even using my real name here. Let’s not call these goals resolutions. They’re just a list of things I’d like to achieve in 2010 (since 2009 threw all these areas off-track). (Lord knows I already tried the laundry list of things and it didn’t work out so hot — 101 in 1001, anyone?) PROFESSIONALTruth be told, my professional life has grown by leaps and bounds since last year. I quit Big Company, Inc., started my own design studio so I could freelance full-time, got into business with two individuals for a while, did a little new media business with some local politicians, and now here I am. One year later and back in the fray of searching for work. Now when I say work, I don’t mean a job per se. I really have no desire to go back into the corporate world, and after the year I had and the shit I learned, I’d only be up for a corporate gig if they came looking for me (and not the other way around). Luckily, that has been happening, including a recent interview in NYC and a few interviews with agencies here in Atlanta. It’s good to see that two degrees plus ten years of experience means I actually start getting callbacks. *eye roll* But aside from that, my design biz needs a serious B12 shot. I’ve gotta build up my client base, and communicate with them more often post-project. I want to put out a monthly newsletter. I want to start a professional blog about design and technology (if only to whittle through all these press releases I’ve been getting lately). I want to get involved in more conferences and workshops and stuff locally to get my business’ name out there. And of course, I want to get some very dormant side projects off the ground (like the comic book), and I need to get a bunch of things in order for SXSW 2010 this year (like funds to make it there, for example). Speaking of which, I’M SPEAKING AT SXSW 2010! Ironically enough, it looks like I’ll actually make it there because I don’t have a punk ass boss to shoot down the idea. Hooray entrepreneurship! FINANCIALSo I started off this year in a pretty decent spot. I had a nice amount saved up from Big Company, Inc., and with regular clients, everything was being taken care of well. Then I got into business with some other folks and shit just started going south. Money started getting split three ways, I’m nickeling and diming to get bills paid, selling my stuff so I can make ends meet, and now I’m down two bank accounts and all my savings. Lesson learned? Be very, very, VERY careful about who you get into business with, especially if you’re the smartest one in the group, doing the lion’s share of the tasks, and have the strongest work ethic. Luckily, my hard work has been starting to pay off. I’m picking up work here and there, and I’m ready to turn this financial setback around. Recession be damned! Although I have to admit, paying for things in cash has been surprisingly hassle-free and easy. I can see now how easy it is to not know where your money goes using plastic, especially with how debit and credit transactions are held. When you pay in cash, your money is gone immediately, so you don’t end up spending cash you don’t have. That Teresa from Real Housewives of New Jersey might’ve had something there. PERSONALReal talk: the highest personal point for me this year was becoming friends with Gaara again. It’s one of those things I didn’t really think would happen given the things I’ve said about him on this blog (as well as the things that happened that I didn’t talk about on this blog). But you know, I find having him around to talk to has been extremely gratifying, not to mention a lot of fun. I didn’t really think becoming friends with an ex was a viable option after The Ex, The Why, and Opportunity. Lord knows what those Negroes are doing right now — probably off terrorizing some else’s emotions for all I know. But even with all the good things with Gaara, it would still be nice to find a boyfriend. Despite what might come forth on this blog (and from my ex’s testimonials), I’m a catch. Highly educated, cute in the face, full of ambition and creativity, and you can take me home to the parents (if they’re accepting, that is). But I sat on the sideline for most of 2009 for professional reasons. I’m ready to get out there and find The Future Mr. Karsh, but I know I have to get my finances back to a stable position and get a good stable of work before I feel comfortable with the whole relationship thing. I know that’s weird, but that’s how I am. Also, next year I’ll be turning 29. One step closer to 30, but I’m not scurred. (You know why.) I would love to have a big birthday bash celebrating my 30th, so I’m going to start planning it next year, and I’d love for as many of my friends to be there as possible. I don’t know if it will be in Atlanta or not, but right now, I’m leaning towards having it out West somewhere (like San Fran or Vegas). Time will tell. What’s on your agenda for 2010? Filed under: Personal and Site News and Technology Comments: 3 Comments |
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Posted on 12/24/09 @ 10:22 pm
D’ya miss me? No? Well I missed y’all. It’s been a rough year. I’ve been worked out, cursed out, overworked, underpaid, slapped, trapped, frustrated, sick, late, behind the eight ball, up shit creek without a paddle, and way down in the jungle deep. And right now, I’m typing this from Hudson Grill on Peachtree Street in Midtown on Christmas Eve politely not giving a fuck about a lot of things. (I’ll elaborate in my next post, which, I promise will not come in a month’s time.) Besides, I’ve got plans for 2010 to turn my life around. It’s been stuck in neutral for a minute, and this year, it actually started going in reverse. I’ve gotta put this bitch into overdrive and make things happen. So to you and yours, Merry Christmas and all that rot. Filed under: Miscellaneous Comments: 1 Comment |
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Posted on 11/30/09 @ 12:56 am
This just in from the “No Shit, Sherlock” files (and the New York Times): In Job Hunt, College Degree Can’t Close Racial Gap
So the Times lays out what us educated Black folks out here looking for jobs have known since Reconstruction. I guess it does sound like more of an epidemic with academic studies and such proving this behavior, but if it’s been going on for so long, why the sudden interest? Because unemployment rates nationwide are at an all-time high? But wait, there’s more: Filed under: Work Comments: 2 Comments |
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Posted on 11/29/09 @ 1:15 pm
In reference to the title, I’ve actually told this to a few people lately. Yeah, I know! This coming from someone who’s been blogging since fucking Geocities was in its prime in 1997! But these days, sitting down to write these long form entries has become less of a joy and more of a chore. It’s not that I don’t have things to talk about, it’s just that most of the time it doesn’t leave my head and make it to this blog, especially if I’ve been out running around all day. Hell, on a busy day, even sending out tweets slips my mind. So many people have already asked me questions like “when are you going to blog again?” and “how come your blog died?” And for me, those lead to a bigger question. What’s the future of Black Gay Blogger look like? Since this blog started in 2003, I’ve mainly only talked about personal stuff, sprinkled with my thoughts on current events, technology, and the like. And for me, that format works. I could never be committed to report on any and everything gay like some of my contemporaries, nor could I just post pictures of half-naked (or fully-naked) dudes for people to ogle over. That’s not to say that I don’t have an interest in gay things or hot men, but it’s just not what I choose to blog about. When I blog, that is. My online blog platform of choice these days is Tumblr. They make it super easy to update, whether from your phone, via e-mail, or easily from the web with a bookmarklet. (Posterous does these same things, but I’ve been with Tumblr first, and I’ve just never jumped on the Posterous bandwagon.) My Tumblr is mainly filled with pictures of sneakers, random images and YouTube videos, and a few long form pieces sprinkled throughout. It also automagically scales down big images to fit into whatever Tumblr template you’re using, giving you even less to worry about when you want to post something. And perhaps what I like best about Tumblr is how easy it is to add content from other sources with automatic attribution. It makes posting something that I’m interested about a quick and easy process. I’m wondering if I should just integrate some Tumblr-like capabilities into this site, because that’s where I’ve been the most active lately, and I’d like to give y’all a little something to tide you over until I actually get back in the swing of real blogging again. What do you think? Filed under: Site News Comments: 6 Comments |
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Posted on 11/28/09 @ 10:12 am
Life is funny. Gaara and I have been in various states of acquaintance since we’ve known each other. We’ve went from casual friends to a hot and heavy relationship to an abrupt breakup to a few periods of silence and now we’re back as friends. And I guess with all that back and forth we’ve had, our friendship is stronger than ever. We even talk about the relationship, what went wrong, and give each other advice on whomever we’re courting at the moment. By all accounts, everything is absolutely great. Except that I have never been in this position with an ex-boyfriend before. Usually when we and a mister break up, that’s that. There’s no after-breakup talks or analysis between us; you break up with me and you’re banished to The Island of Lost Boyfriends. Granted, a few have had some post-relationship visits to Casa de Karsh, but a boy has needs. And I’m not talking emotional ones. Gaara is different. I can’t quite put my finger on it, but even after the breakup, he’s still been amicable and easy-going — the same way he was when we were in a relationship. And since we’re closer than ever in terms of friendship (and location — he actually lives in Atlanta now), this is a good thing. He’s one of my favorite people to hang out with. He makes me laugh. We can vibe well in nearly any scenario. He’s met my friends. I’ve met his friends. His family likes me (I think). And wouldn’t you know it — right now, we’re both single. And even more, we both don’t want to be in relationships right now. This is either going to be a recipe for harmony or disaster. Stay tuned. Filed under: Personal Comments: 2 Comments |
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Posted on 10/25/09 @ 1:30 pm
Well, it looks like all these months of work, these past weeks of 12-14 hour work days, and not really taking care of myself during these iffy temperature periods has caught up to me. I’m at home sick. It’s no H1N1, but it’s definitely the flu. My whole body is weak, I have no energy, and I’m coughing up all kinds of odd-looking stuff. Not pretty. I did tell myself that I should at least drop in here once a month and leave an update, but my recent malaise has hastened that. If you’ve been keeping up with my Twitter, then you know I’m really only able to get on once a week or so, and that’s for any Real Housewives of Atlanta snark. I’ve been keeping my Tumblr active as well. Hopefully, once this gig I’m currently working wraps up and my life can go back to some semblance of normalcy and you’ll start seeing more regular updates. Until then though, catch me on either Twitter or Tumblr. Now to find some meds and food. *cough**hack**spit* Filed under: Personal Comments: 5 Comments |
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Posted on 09/07/09 @ 1:33 am
It appears my mutant power of being attracted to unavailable men has flared up once again. It’s the end of the summer and I have a crush on someone. On a straight someone. I sure can pick ‘em. I’ve been remaining pretty cool about it. It seems all those years of corporate America taught me how to subdue my feelings in the face of adversity (or awkwardness, in this case). I figured I’d be a little old for this kind of thing, but I’ve been single for about a year and a half now and have had a string of shitty dates. And the dudes I meet in between those dates are shallow, pretentious, one-note losers with no personality or drive. They’re not interesting; they’re just some boring fags looking for the next thing to keekee about or dude to lie on their backs with. (Hey, a guy has needs!) Talking and hanging out with the crush is…refreshing. It’s refreshing because he’s carefree, smart, creative, sarcastic, and is intelligent. He’s everything I’d want in a guy…if he were gay. But he’s not. And I’m too old to pull the “let’s test if he’s gay” game. Besides, I’m convinced the only place that game really works is at Morehouse. So until I find The Future Mr. Karsh, I’ll just sit and daydream openly about the crush, hearing his voice, laughing at his jokes, and dying a little bit inside when he starts talking about the kind of girl he wants. *sigh* Filed under: Personal and Relationships Comments: 7 Comments |
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Posted on 08/25/09 @ 8:10 pm
From their page: [...] Potential candidates should have a basic understanding of blogging and Web 2.0, be familiar with their university’s LGBT resources, and be enrolled as a full-time student. Winners will be asked to contribute and commit to one blog post per week while school is in session. And yes, grad students, you’re eligible too. Yours truly is no longer in school, but if you’re an LGBT blogger in school and reading this, go and apply. And if you go to an HBCU, you damn well better apply. Filed under: News and Writing Comments: 1 Comment |
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Posted on 08/24/09 @ 10:22 pm
While going through my feeds and e-mail, I saw a link to an article called “Don’t Date and Blog”. Don’t date and blog? Hell, that’s where I get my best material! However, there was one line in the article — a mundane line, really — that gave me cause to pause.
Which reminds me of my “date” with Housecat from Saturday! (See what I mean about getting material?) Filed under: Personal and Relationships Comments: 4 Comments |
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I found this little tidbit in my mailbox this morning, and figured I’d pass the opportunity. Southern Voice, the local gay newspaper here in town, is having a 

